Have you noticed that more communication in marriage doesn't seem to be the answer for you? Me too. Early on in our marriage, Nancie and I had this pattern. I'd say something the wrong way. She'd shut down. Then I'd relentlessly try to get her to talk because everyone says communication is the key to marriage. She'd finally tell me what was wrong, and I'd spend the next 20 minutes explaining in painstaking detail how she'd heard me wrong. We were communicating more, all right. We were communicating our way right into criticism, defensiveness, and contempt. Turns out, talking more isn't always the answer. The key is communicating better. Here are 3 truths about communication in marriage that actually work. 1. Silence is better than talking. Sometimes silence is better than talking. I know, I know, this sounds like the opposite of what every marriage book tells you. But hear me out. Recently, I was having a "discussion" with our son when Nancie...